I love lawyers and judges. I come from a family of lawyers. I married a lawyer from a family of lawyers. My heroes–David Bruck, Jimbo Morton, and Judy Clarke–are lawyers. My best friends are lawyers. My grandfather served as acting chief justice of the Supreme Court of South Carolina. My parents served as magistrates. A brother-in-law is a federal judge.
For years I could not understand why litigants, laypersons, and the public dislike, detes… Read More
I wrote a client demanding payment of her $2,600 past due account. She promptly responded by discharging me as her attorney with an e-mail message asserting I did not respond promptly and that I over billed. I responded explaining the need for an order relieving me as attorney of record, why the accusations are incorrect, strongly suggesting that she promptly get a new lawyer, offering to do anything I can to help the new lawyer, and wishing her the best of luck.
I continued to think ab… Read More
The books on other lawyers’ bookshelves interest me because they provide insights to the lawyer’s interests, influence, and intellect. I cannot find the author for attribution, but one of my favorite quotations is “Reading makes the educated person but writing makes the precise person.” To maintain one’s professional education, one must continue to read. I enjoy writing, often quoting from what is on my bookshelf, so my thinking and expression will be precise. Because most of what I… Read More
Exchanges of children for visitation are stressful for parents and stressful for children, no matter how well the parents get along with each other and no matter how much the children love both parents. Parents and children may be uncomfortable at the beginning of the visitation and near the end of the visitation. Having fewer visitations for longer periods reduces this problem. Midweek visitations of a few hours should be eliminated and replaced with longer summer visitation. Summer visitati… Read More
As a lawyer and a mediator, my first question of a litigant in a custody case is “Do you love your child so much that you can treat the other parent with dignity and respect?” They always answer “yes” but frequently act otherwise. Treating the other parent with dignity and respect not only benefits the child, it benefits the parent who will have a better relationship with the child, will avoid contentious and expensive litigation, and will most probably achieve a better result.
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