Exchanges of children for visitation are stressful for parents and stressful for children, no matter how well the parents get along with each other and no matter how much the children love both parents. Parents and children may be uncomfortable at the beginning of the visitation and near the end of the visitation. Having fewer visitations for longer periods reduces this problem. Midweek visitations of a few hours should be eliminated and replaced with longer summer visitation. Summer visitati… Read More
As a lawyer and a mediator, my first question of a litigant in a custody case is “Do you love your child so much that you can treat the other parent with dignity and respect?” They always answer “yes” but frequently act otherwise. Treating the other parent with dignity and respect not only benefits the child, it benefits the parent who will have a better relationship with the child, will avoid contentious and expensive litigation, and will most probably achieve a better result.
My three children, their spouses, and seven grandchildren were here for Thanksgiving so of course I enjoyed the holiday. I had special moments and memories with each over the weekend.
Why the children were here rather than somewhere else goes back to the late seventies when their mother and I were going through separation and divorce. We initially had the then typical visitation schedule that alternated holidays with Christmas starting December 24 on even-numbered years and December 26… Read More
Thomas F. McDow
Any time I ask, “why”, the least satisfactory answer is “Because that is the way we have always done it.” I want to know why that is the way we have always done it.
Today’s question is why do lawyers always begin affidavits “Personally appeared before me __________ who being first duly sworn deposed and stated under oath as follows…”? The jurat, which is the “sworn to and subscribed before… Read More
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